PERSPECTIVE: While the more standard philosophical definition is; “a particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view or a specified manner of consideration”, there is an alternate definition in art, “the art of drawing solid objects on a two-dimensional surface so as to give the right impression of their height, width, depth, and position in relation to each other when viewed from a particular point.”
Most often we consider perspective philosophically. In politics its presentation of opinion has been rather diffused given that our views have been the product of fake news, fake media, and manipulation. And thus the normal absorption of information that comes about through education, wisdom, environment, history and reading, can no longer be wholly relied upon.
But in art, perspective is utilizing a two dimensional surface to create a three dimensional imagery. When done, it is either right or wrong.
But in normal philosophical stratums, there is no true right or wrong because views can never be assimilated in a vacuum of A or B, instead, they are a composite of all multiples surrounding A to Z and every possible combination therein.
In a relationship, that stratum is stressed to the hilt.
Albeit there is no right or wrong when processing the exact same information and having completely different conclusions. It simply is a mathematical exponential.
We see this confusion most prophetically in churches wherein one church will assert they are the only truth and all other churches are false. They started with the exact same information and come to far different conclusions. This rift has divided religion and created what I like to call ‘Religious Babel’ wherein no one understands the language of the other.
It has divided politics, albeit from a manipulated point of information. But it has also been core in destroying – relationships.
Most recently, my own.
Differing perspectives don’t necessarily mean a relationship is doomed, but when the negatives become the focus and the core, they become the over-riding view of the partner. When negatives create that view, ultimately, the music dies.
I knew a man who actually kept a detailed log of every negative about his wife to help remind him daily just how awful she was. The marriage failed.
I am naturally a positive person and always used humor and a positive image when trying to pull my children out of a bad mood or bad situation. It was a miracle worker! But while sometimes it rubs off on the people you are around, sometimes it just doesn’t.
Perspective in politics has cost me my best friend as well as a handful of friends. Perspective in church has cost me the entire congregation. And perspective in my relationship has cost me a relationship. It is not to be taken lightly.
With the advent of Obama, division in politics ramped to a new high. Sitting on the brink of complete chaos, our country became veiled in a dark shroud of anger, violence and hatred. At one point, while vacationing with my best friend, an attorney, and ten other female attorneys, I happened to mention that I wasn’t a Democrat. We were eating, drinking wine, gay, and all chuckles until I revealed my affiliation. Within seconds these women had risen from their seats, were pointing their fingers at me with indignant hatred, and vilifying my character, my person.
Ultimately, by best friend since junior high chose to take sides – and it wasn’t mine.
Recently, I began to do my thing, research, and became ensnared in time tables, Biblical interpretations, and judgmental finger waggings. When all was said and done, these very devout Biblical friends all disappeared because I no longer attended their church. I was considered a heretic, ostracized, denounced, and defriended.
And lastly I come to my recent ‘relationship’. A rather bizarre beginning to the end, an escalation of perspectives, declarations, views, and poof, it all collapsed. From beginning to end took less than 24 hours. Perhaps a record! From my ‘perspective’ the same negatives that caused me to lose my best friend and my church, were being projected from my partner. And, alas, from me. And as relationship counseling 101 has proven time and again – negatives do not produce positives.
In a perfect world not turned upside down by the likes of the Mad Hatter, I would wish that the negatives of chaos could be replaced by the positives of beauty.
Unfortunately, none of these perspective incidences will resolve. And the happiness and connections that once were mine will hold to their pilgrimage of negativism til death do us part.
And still…. I can dream of providing an artistic impression of a three dimensional view from a 2 dimensional perspective…