Watching the latest Middlebury riots, the level of violence in our youth seems to have reached levels of entitlement without consequence. And this unruly behavior is rooted – at home – with parents. It is the parental responsibility to teach values and ethics to their children beginning in the home – so that they understand it is not tolerated, not permitted, and will have consequences. Unfortunately, it would seem that consequences in the home – in the schools – and now in the universities is non-existent.
Perhaps the correlation is that more and more our kids are not raised by parents, instead they are raised by institutions, as in DayCares. Not unlike the State raising children without moral boundaries, love, discipline, or virtue.
According to The National Center for Education Statistics, just 13% of children in the US get home-based relative care. This doesn’t mean a parent, it simply defers to ‘any relative’.
Twenty five years ago when daycares shifted from the helping hand to the prime parent, psychologists insisted there would be no ramifications. Instead they sought to encourage this altered state of the Family. They promoted daycares as a good, healthy, social environment. And they derided the home based mother as repugnant for holding their child back from an opportunity!
It’s much like Dr. Spock who decried that actually embracing or kissing your child could lead them into becoming a clingy cry=baby ninny. Or when our esteemed government told mother’s that formula was far superior to breast milk – and an entire generation was raised without antibodies to fight diseases.
We are now forced to live the consequence of this very stupid psychological mumbojumbo MESS.
New studies show that:
1) Children who attend daycare centers tend to exhibit more behavioral problems
2) Age of entry and quantity of time spent in daycare are directly correlated responses to the problem behavior
3) Children who spend more time in daycare more likely to exhinit negative behavior
4) Children in daycare during infancy linked to lower cognitive scores.
5) Extensive daycare experience associated with insecure attachment to mothers.
6) Parents who put their children in daycare are less likely to discipline and provide parental guidance to their children
7) Daycare children were more likely to have academic school problems, health problems as well as advanced behavioral problems.
OOPS! I guess all those expert psychologists from 25 years ago were all dead WRONG.
Further studies have shown that there is also greater inability to engage in a relationship. The new generation doesn’t want kids. They don’t want a family. Their entire world is conceived of self. Another fabulous concept ingrained by the psychology kingdom. Self books, self need, self desire, pay attention to self, self is everything – until those selves become infatuated with nothing else. It is an addiction – self absorption.
Daycare was not created to replace mom and dad, it was created to assist single mothers who needed to get off welfare and train in some employment capacity. But the media led us to believe that if the wealthy could have nannies, daycare was the middle class nanny so that moms could tend to ‘self’.
Growing up in a daycare is really not much different than growing up in an orphanage. Twelve hours each day under state rule, only to be taken home by a weary, exhausted mom who just wants to put their child to bed. I remember when I had my daycare center and moms petitioned for me to have weekend overnights at the center for their children so they could go to bars, and parties and such… I didn’t.
So if you want to know why these ‘children’ are now rioting at Berkeley, Ferguson, Middlebury, etc…, they have no discipline structure – and the Universities are so afraid they might lose money over disciplinary action, they fall further into an existential trap.
Odd Segway: Remember how the entitlers strove to shut down Ivanka Trump’s clothing line causing many department stores to pull her line? The retailers acted out of fear and succumbed to the bully tactics. But the result has been that her line is doing famously! And in the end, the retailers have lost sales , lost income, and lost respect as the majority spoke.
Imagine what support a university might find if the conservatives discovered that the school actually had values and consequences, and bullying, violent, bratty children – were no longer tolerated?